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This May Be The SECRET SAUCE of Art

An artist will always be influenced by their past, their cultural exposure, the travels of their youth, the mentors they were afforded, and the family in which they were raised. These have a great impact on one’s artistic inclination; they help to shape their artistic process, the way they view things, and how they translate the world in their creations. Whether it’s through music, fashion, fine arts, architecture, or any other art form, these influences always find their way to his creation being amplified in a fitting manner. 


For instance, Paul McCartney of the Beatles wrote the timeless song “Yesterday” at just 21 years old. It resonated globally because the lyrics were remarkably profound and melancholy for someone so young.


“Why she, had to go 

I don't know, she wouldn't say

I said, something wrong, I don't know

For yesterday”


People wondered where he got his inspiration for such a sad song considering his age. Sir Paul noted that pain and grief were the key elements. Having lost his mother at age 15, the grief had persisted long after her passing. The painful question—‘Why?’—had lived in his heart for years. Why, mom, did you have to go. The painful past found its way back through beautiful lyrics woven in this legendary song.


Another revolutionary figure, this time in the fashion industry, is Mademoiselle Coco Chanel, who transformed how women dressed in the 1920s. A known perfectionist, her attention to detail was as legendary as her principles. She famously believed that 'simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance' and that 'in order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.'


The word 'iconic' is synonymous with Chanel. Her handbags, haute couture, and signature strings of faux pearls became timeless staples. Even her famous color palette of black, red, and white was reminiscent of the uniforms she wore as an orphan in a convent. Similarly, the hardware studs and emblems used to adorn her bags and cufflinks were inspired by the intricate details found on the grand staircase of the place she once called home. 


Her minimalist style was a direct rebellion against the “fussy’ and restrictive corsets of the era, further proving her quote: “My life didn’t please me, so I created my life.”


It seems that pain is the “secret sauce” of a lasting work of art: that when being subjected to pain, something beautiful of great value is created, birthed, through the friction of human experience- if you will. 


I witnessed this creative influence firsthand while watching my own mother. When she was learning to sew, she practiced by making blouses for my sisters and me. We were in elementary school then, and I remember how happy it made her; she was in her most joyful state whenever she was creating. Her work brought a certain sense of calmness to our home.


She even went as far as making our school uniforms. Though we attended a private Catholic school with a specific dress code, she used a design of her own. Even though they weren't exactly what the school prescribed, we 'got away with murder' because we wore them with such confidence. As children, we didn't mind looking different from the other students; in fact, we were incredibly proud to wear something our mother had created with her own hands.


Just a few of Inay's masterpieces which she created 

for my sister and me to wear during special occasions at school.


Our Hawaiian costume that we wore for the United Nations Day
celebration in 1977, in Puerto Galera.

My white dress that I wore for the kindergarten moving-up
ceremony in 1979, Batangas City.

Another white dress that I wore during my First Communion
in 1980, Batangas City.

I never could have imagined that decades later—half a century, in fact—without a formal training, I would find myself bravely sewing. In my dreams, I see kaleidoscopes of patterns and vibrant colors falling from the ceiling of my room. Today, I sit before my sewing machine, combining those colors into what I call patchwork or quilt work.


This journey constantly reminds me of how my mother bravely navigated life. While Tatay was away daily attending to business, my Inay managed her quaint little souvenir shop entirely on her own—a place where we all helped to tend and keep. Though Inay was more introverted than I was as a child, she was never idle. She set her own rules for creativity and, remarkably, translated that artistry into a thriving business. Her shop did more than just augment my Tatay's income from operating his machine shop or his labor building boats and beach houses; it ensured that we had food on our table and sent us to private schools all the way through college.  


A few months ago, I felt a surge of that same bravery. I created a beautiful quilt for my mother in honor of her lifelong hard work. She lives with me, and at eighty-three, she is navigating advanced dementia. Despite the challenges, I find such quiet strength and assurance in her presence. She reminds me that God provides for the widow and the orphan; as Psalm 68:5 says, He is a 'Father to the fatherless' and a 'defender of widows.' Inay models that scripture in the flesh, a living testament for all to see.


















Pray For Ukraine - Pray For Russia, Too

While the looming crisis of a Russian invasion of Ukraine progressed last week, I had a serious sit-down talk with my kids to make sure that we are all aware of what was going on and what was about to happen. 

What do we make of what we see and hear from all social media platforms since the war broke out over the last 6 days? How do we know the validity of their claims? How can we be so sure that there are no biases on the reports that we see on our newsfeeds? How can we tell fact from fiction? What are the most available reliable news source we have on our hands considering the fact that these are mostly controlled and broadcasted by the western media? How I wish I have all the clear answers to these questions.

I cautioned them to be careful what they re-share in social media. To really think well before they click. To be mindful how they respond to FAKE news as they are rampant anywhere you turn. To verify the source of the news that they are reading; to observe; to be vigilant; amidst all the chaos, it is of utmost importance to adapt a right mindset so that we can still continue to pray from a 360-degree perspective. So that hatred will not take root in our hearts as we see a generation of angry uninformed people who are mindlessly sharing lies and posting rants that exacerbate the issue even more. Beware of the so-called social media influencers. They too, can be misled.

Why did Russia invade Ukraine? The dispute between these two great nations go a long way back. The answer to this could be found dating back to centuries ago when Ukraine and countries like Latvia, Lithuania, Belarus, Poland, among other Slavic nations which formed what used to be the Soviet Union Socialist Republic. They have a deep geo-political, economic, and cultural background between them. They are like "brothers." 

Considered as the world's largest country, Russia has no natural barriers that will keep their enemies away from their borders. Ukraine plays an important role in keeping Russia's enemies at bay as its topography serves as buffer against any form of attacks from the invaders in Europe. Ukraine's geographic location is like a doorway to Europe, while being a neutral country, serving to keep the Russian Federation intact as a nation. 

Back in the early 90s, following the dissolution of the Soviet Union, part of the Agreement was that NATO (North Atlantic Treaty Organization) will not expand its territories across the Russian borders. Ukraine stays as a neutral country, Russia remains intact. It was an agreement. Russia wants to maintain its geo-political integrity away from the influence of the expanding western world through their alliance with NATO. They want to do things their way. A kind of posture that Russia has always adapted as seen in their history.  This agreement with NATO has not been honored. Since then, many other nations such as Latvia, Lithuania, and Poland formerly part of Soviet Russia eventually became NATO allies while Ukraine has remained a neutral country.

Times have changed as the political climate in this region has shifted in favor of being one with NATO. 
  • This should help us to understand why Russia is doing what she is doing; as NATO has expanded its territories over the last decades, forging alliances with the former Slavic states, welcoming Ukraine as an ally nation would make her boundaries vulnerable to the rest of Europe, she is worrying for her security as a nation and she will do everything to protect her people and maintain her geographic integrity
  • This should help us to understand why Ukraine is doing what she is doing; to fight for her own freedom, to be able to think and decide for herself as a democratic nation just like her neighboring countries; for her own security, to be allies with NATO.
  1. Pray for Ukraine. 
  2. Pray for Russia, too. 
  3. Pray for ALL the citizens who are directly and indirectly hit by this harrowing crisis. 
  4. Pray for our thousands of OFW kababayans in Moscow and elsewhere in Russia who, as of this writing have endured the crippling effects of the sanction that EU has imposed in their banking system. Maraming nakaasang pamilya sa kanila dito sa Pinas. Kaya 'wag lang Ukraine ang ipag-pray natin. Isama natin sa panalangin ang Russia kase apektado tayong lahat dito. Malayo man tayo sa putukan, it will come knocking at our doorstep, one way or another. Not to cause fear and panic here but we see these transpiring already. The EU sanction comes as a double-edged sword hurting all the nations that are benefiting from these great nations that are at war with each other. Delayed cargo deliveries; prices of commodities dramatically shooting up; the international chain of supply and demand being adversely affected; international flights being put to a sudden halt, to name a few. 
  5. Pray for the lives of precious children who were left orphaned by this senseless war. 
  6. Pray for President Volodymyr Zelenskyy of Ukraine; pray for President Vladimir Putin of Russia; pray for NATO and EU Leaders that they will find it in their hearts to immediately stop this war and come to terms with this, choose the highest good of God's people.
  7. Pray for the peace of Ukraine, pray for the peace of Russia.
  8. Pray that the Lord's purposes will prevail in these trying times.
"First of all, then, I urge that entreaties and prayers, petitions and thanksgivings, be made on behalf of all men, for kings and all who are in authority, so that we may lead a tranquil and quiet life in all godliness and dignity. This is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior." 1 Timothy 2:1-3























What's Wrong With This House? Series: The Marble Island

Christmas 2018

My heart was in a good place when I requested my husband to include a marble island in our tiny kitchen, to which he readily obliged. We were a young couple brimming with our hopes and dreams as we started building our first home. To my mind, it wouldn't hurt if we used the few pieces of immaculate white marble tiles that was left with my side of the family after enduring a business bankruptcy just years before I got married. I wanted it to serve as a reminder of the Lord's faithfulness and lovingkindness for the next generation to see. How He gently ushered my family of origin into a life of full dependency on Him in the 90's- minus the earthly possessions that my parents invested into through years of honest and gainful hard-work. It will be a reminder of how the Lord saw us through during the humbling times of letting go by way of Eviction. Back when Eviction, spelled with a big "E", was not yet glamorized in the entertainment industry such as the reality shows on TV that we have now. 

Having said that, it only goes to show how important it was for me to see those remaining marble pieces installed on our kitchen island even when around this time, it was not the trend any longer. Wala na sa uso. Marble manufacturing became obsolete as quarrying in Mindoro was banned by the government. Marble tile installers were so hard to find.

Back to the celebrated marble island. As I considered its potential and possibility for gathering our loved ones, close family members, and friends, I envisioned a little nook where I served tea and coffee while random bursts of our laughters filled the air. After-all, isn't it the point of hospitality? To provide a platform to connect as we are created by God for relationships and thrive in it. To provide a safe place for your people to convene and express themselves freely. To be heard. To recharge. To know and to be known. To bless others and in return, be blessed. Then you repeat because memories are made by repetition. The marble island will be placed within my arm's reach from the kitchen counter-top, what would be more proper and convenient for a hostess wannabe? Picture Nigella or Ina here.

With 49 square-meters of open-concept living space, this was not bad for a young family of three. But not until one more additional, a baby boy at that, came into the picture shortly after we moved here. My expectation of a cozy marble island was slowly altered by the reality of an ugly-looking immaculate white marble table sticking out of our now cramped kitchen space. It was an eye-sore, to say the least. With the baby walker and  the baby high-chair, the pre-schoolers' books and counting manipulatives, our dirty dishes to wash, our clean laundry to be folded and pressed, ALL these concerns competed for my attention in the already cramped space for the life of me.

Tea and coffee were not served as we have not invited family and friends to come over. This season lasted a few years while we figured out how to feed and nurture our growing family, how to home-educate our two young ones, and how to stay collected. While these transpired, we enjoyed the safety and comfort of living a semi-incognito way of life. Because there was a need, our marble island was eventually converted into a multi-purpose homeschool desk, a meals prep table for chopping veggies, a quick breakfast nook by day; a monkey bar and a fortress for our army of two by night. Got the picture?

Form follows function is a very valuable principle that we learned alongside adaptability as we made this kitchen element work for us in an unorthodox way. This has helped us to frame our perspective as we tackled the many "wrongs" we discovered along the way; as new homeowners, we realized that it came with the territory; we worked around these rough edges; we learned to embrace what we have, the good and the bad and be at peace with them. The scripture from Romans 8:28 delighted us as we were constantly reminded: "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose." Hence, we birthed This Rugged-Joyfull Home. Incognito no more! 

We have since built an additional 60 square-meter kitchen space next to our original 49 square-meter living space. This was to become the heart of our home that is big enough for everyone to fill; our response with a vengeance to our cramped kitchen layout from the start; our response to a wrongfully and/or rightfully constructed marble island in our first kitchen, which of course would depend on how you would look at it. It's still there, looking sturdy and proud.

As our people have grown, we have grown, too. We're loving how our first home ages through the years; it's looking older than its actual age; full of character, full of objects thrifted and bought brand new. My kitchen hutches are fully-stocked with tea and coffee, sugar and cream, cinnamon sticks, if you please. The large farmhouse table complements the look of our velvet white walls; the distressed chopping table whose legs I personally designed a lifetime ago has always served its purpose, inviting everyone to come to the table and dine with me.

As I figure out where to place my last period for this post, I casually told my daughter that I'm about to publish the second blog on my series, What's Wrong With This House?: The Marble Island. Without a blink, but with her eye-brows creased, she asked, WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT? I rest my case. Period.